“Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder” is an often quoted expression we hear in our conversations. Some people think beauty is subjective. Thinking allowed and no pun intended, “I believe every woman is just as beautiful.”
With hindsight, you may agree that no standard for beauty has held true for all time in all places. If you are interested in cultural anthropology, you will be able to recall that at some time in history, somewhere in the world, every shape, size and look has been a perfect. Thus, today’s definition, our definition of physical beauty is just one of the many ways external standards are used to measure us or rank us and assign us a role and identity in this world.
Indeed, many people spend their lives trying to get people to see that they do measure up. That they are important or influential and better than others. I beg to differ. If you buy into this, you are buying into a lie. And as long as you believe that lie, you will hate your life.
In a world that insists one must stick out way beyond ordinary, to matter. we are often told point blank; “Those who don’t stick out, they are ordinary and average …… And nobody notices the ordinary and average.” They believe prominence rules and only those who stands out are worthy of adulation. Those who stands out have worth. They are our idols.
Realistically, aren’t we are putting too much emphasis on external things? Say, our looks, position, wealth, connections, power and influence. You see, we keep jumping the track because we are confused about what to use to measure personal value. We fail to realize that the external things ultimately don’t matter. This “you-need-to-be ………. to-matter” has lead us to believe that worth is determined by beauty, money, position and so forth.
Thus, if we believe and accept that is true, then we are compelled to do all we can to get as much of that stuff as possible. The world would becomes a place for taking, a field of competition, a place for one-upping, conquering, overcoming and a place where only the fittest survive. Don’t you agree this kind of world perpetuates the anxiety of wondering just how fit we are and if our fit is fit enough?
And, don’t you think in this kind of world; popularity polls matters, youth matters, beauty matters; the poor, the weak, the aged, the handicapped, the not so beautiful or those less than perfect are discarded and forgotten? I believe our self-image is much like a self-portrait. It is very close to who and what what we picture ourselves to be. I believe God sees us as victors and God want us to have healthy and positive self-images. He created us in His image and He is continuously shaping us, helping us to become better and conforming us to His character. And, He sees us as His special masterpiece.
I believe every woman is just as beautiful and none of us would have to look hard to find another measurement, standard or basis for comparison. Dare to believe and accept you are not a mistake. And dare to fall in love with the ordinary again. The minor details of your life matters to God. And if we don’t happen to fit today’s definition of beautiful, that only means the definition is faulty …….. Remember, it says nothing about who we are, what our value is, or for what we are destined.
Have another beautiful weekend and God Bless.