“How can you just walk on by
Without one tear in your eye
Don’t you have the slightest feelings left for me
Maybe that’s just your way
Of dealing with the pain
Forgetting everything between our rise and fall
Like we have never loved at all …………”
People break up for various reasons. Sometimes there are valid reasons and at times they seem ridiculous. I reckon a break up is never an instant decision. There must have been clues along the way. But there are people who would choose to play blind and ignore the clues all together.
Love and loss are a part of life. At some point in life, most people will experience the sorrow of a relationship break up. Unless you are one of the very few, lucky and fortunate who find “the special one” on your first encounter, break-up will happen and they will hurt. So what can you do? And can the pain kill you?
I reckon not. Put the past in the past. Accept the fact that others have a right to choose not to love you. Accept the relationship is over and don’t keep it dragging on. Drop the blame game and take action to get your life back on track. Indeed, there will be pain initially because our expectations for the relationship did not match up with the reality.
On another note, there could be reasons why the break up may be good for you. Or, you may learn something through this. And imagine, if God could speak to you through this, what He would say to you?
It is not what happens to you, but what you think about what happens to you that will affect your emotions and impact your life. You can decide for yourself how you are going to feel about it and move on. Or, you can choose to stay miserable and pray that someday it will just wear off by itself. But, wasting time deploring the past will only keep God at a distance. So get over and move on because letting go is not the end of the world ……………….. as a matter of fact, it is the beginning of new life. As they say ………………….
“You can break my spirit, break my soul, break my heart, but no one will ever break my will to go on.”