‘In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything and two minus one equals nothing.”
~ Mignon McLaughlin.
A break-up is a sign that something is not in the way it should be. Most of us feel it is a difficult thing to do. But, from another perspective, breaking-up could be a healthy signal notifying us it’s time to re-look at the entire relationship seriously. Whether it is really worth investing more, or if God may be calling us to let go?
All of us know it is easy for all us to fall in love. But, very few people know how to stay in love. Basically, a relationship that works is not one which we have to try to be or being someone we are not. In short, we have to be loved as who we are.
The world tells us that true love is about sensual desire, personal fulfillment and living happily ever after. But God tells us that true love will take us through life when all else fails us.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boasts, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (Corinthians 13:4-8)
Be mindful, we are the common denominator in all our relationship problems as well. Take a good look at where you are today, or you could possibly end up duplicating your relationship problems in your future relationships again. Now, back to where I begin this post, if a break-up is difficult to do. Then, most break-ups should be saved or revived if that is what we really want. Start doing what works, this time doing it smarter …………………………… and not anchoring on what seems to be fair and right.
“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.”
~ Steven Covey.