Are relationships and partnerships doomed if we have different interests?
Are relationships and partnerships doomed if we have different core values?
To me, having shared core values is the most important foundation in any relationship or business partnership. Values are what all of us need to live our lives authentically so that we can have a beautiful life – feeling good and happy all the time.
Our core values are those firmly held beliefs about what makes us as a person of value and also what we see as valuable in others. It is based on our experiences in life. It help us identify what is right or wrong, good or bad and the way we feel about everything around us.
For instance, if someone says he or she values love, respect, care and trust, but courting someone for attraction, passion, excitement and chemistry, guess where will they likely to end up one day?
Or, in a business partnership, where one values good practice and service whilst his or her partner is strictly focused on profits, guess where will they most likely end up one day?
If one likes to read whenever she finds time. While her partner choose to go online whenever he is free. Yet, both acknowledge they value knowledge, then, will reading a book or going online deemed as a difference in interests?
I can only see the couple constantly enhancing their knowledge through different sources or channels. So is their shared core value likely to cause a dent or help to strengthen their relationship anytime in the future?
“Yee Sang” is a popular dish served during the Lunar New Year in most Chinese restaurants and food outlets. It has been a long tradition to celebrate every Lunar New Year with “Yee Sang.” I stumbled upon this “Yee Sang with Salmon” at Sake Shushi very recently. I see people enjoy tossing and mixing the different ingredients in the dish with their chopsticks while happily wishing one another with good wishes for the entire year. I see people value tradition more than being overly concerned with regards to who or which country introduced the dish first?
“I doubt we can ever successfully impose values or attitudes or values on our children certainly not by threat, guilt or punishment. But I do believe they can be introduced through relationships where parents and children are growing together. Such relationships are, I believe, build on trust, example, talk and caring.”
~ Fred Rogers.
Have a Happy Weekend. !!!