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Revisiting: My Take – Can Money Buy Love?

First and foremost, I believe there is no simple answer to this tricky question …… So as to which side is right, that depends on what kind of love one is looking for. Say if you are looking for love from a soul mate, then it is highly unlikely that it can be bought with money.

On the other hand, money does increase one’s chance of love. Money can help generate love. I mean generating the circumstances that are favorable for love as well as inducing the loving feeling in us. Money can improve our bargaining position and our attraction factor – the pull factor.

While love decreases the need for money is especially true when one is so deeply in love initially. At that moment, money can be of less significance. However, one will get to realize with the lack of money for his or her basic needs, their love could also be at risk. Thus, a lot more have to be addressed, put in place and properly synchronized before love can be considered as meaningful.

I believe money can lead us to love because love is something that is hardly disconnected from reality. In this day and age, money can help us find love. But, be mindful what we can expect and cannot expect from it. More money can probably lead to more stress and is less effective in bringing us the kind of love we want.

Love without money is difficult – I dread to think about it. It could be equally stressful as well. Consider the following frequently expressed statements; “Oh, it’s so difficult to love you when you’re earning so much less than me.” Or, “So much less than my good friend’s husband” and so forth.

As I conclude this posting, I wish to quote  “Money will buy you a fine dog, but only love can make it wag its tail.” – Richard Friedman. Can money buy love? At least not the kind of love I cherish …… That kind of love is priceless. I believe we should give from our heart and not our pocket. We should give love to the people around us as it is in giving we receive. Yes even in this day and age, where we can mail order a wife or a husband, pick up our phone and rent-a-date …… and so the list of options goes.

Happy loving and happy living …… Have a fabulous weekend everyone !!!

Revisiting: Can Money Buy Love?

“Love without money is difficult” or “Money without love is useless?”

The past weekend was simply wonderful. Met up with some old friends at Starbucks and after a brief exchange of greetings, our get-together began to liven-up when Fred (who looked a little upset that afternoon) asked; “Hey, what do you fellows think, can money buy me love?”

You see, Fred is in his early 40s and is a civil engineer by training. Fred is a refined bachelor and have been going steady with a young lady for some time. However, in the recent months, we heard the fire of love in them has been less intense and cold. So when Fred raised that question, all of us were taken aback and dumbfounded.

Like me, all those present must have been thinking on their feet the same question. “How could I tactfully handle his question – without having to rub salt to his wound?” There was a long silence, then, Julie, a teacher, looked at us before turning towards Fred’s direction and confidently responded with a loud “Yes.”

She then paused before proceeding to say, “Money can buy love.” Now, all of us were stunned by her response. Our eyes were focused at her and our ears were waiting for more …… “Look, some businesses have proven that …… Their sales are always at the peak during Valentine’s Day” she continued.

“Oh …… what a brilliant and tactful answer to Fred’s tricky question,” I told myself. And from Fred’s body language, I  could read he was happy with what Julie had said and those words may have warmed his aching heart a little. Then, there was a grin of sadness from Fred’s macho-looking face. I sensed he could have some regret for not taken the initiative to rekindle his fire of love on Valentine’s Day.

By then, Nicholas, who have a chain of fine dining restaurants in town chipped in; “I agree. I agree with Julie. I had a big jump in reservations on Valentine’s Day.” Immediately his remark opened the floodgates. Mary smilingly told us her chocolates and gifts were completely sold-off on that afternoon. And Alan’s wife, Jessica, who owns a florist shop next door confirmed she too enjoyed brisk business on Valentine’s Day too.

Then, Frank threw in some jokes, got up and did his Beatles act; “I’ll buy you a diamond ring if it makes you feel alright. I’ll get you anything my friend it it makes you feels alright. Cause I don’t care to how much a money” and stopped right there. Fred and the rest of us were already smiling and having cheered-up our good friend, it was an opportune time for us to move into another topic.

Can money buy love?

That was the question I kept asking myself as I drove home after the get-together. 

Possible or simply not possible?

And is there any connection between money and love?

What is your take on this?

Warmest wishes and blessings to all of you.


I’ll Follow The Sun.

I was on my way out of a shopping mall after buying some Christmas presents for my loved ones, when one of my old favorites; “I’ll Follow The Sun” by the Beatles was being aired at a cafe. That song very accurately, described the feeling I was in lately. I slowed down my pace and happily joined the Beatles singing the song in my heart ……………..

“One day, you’ll look
To see I’ve gone
But tomorrow may rain, so
I’ll follow the sun”

The Mayans think the world will come to an end in 2012. “That is still a year away,” some may say. “Let’s celebrate Christmas and a New Year first before we dwell on that thought.” While some will just dismiss the thought as another grand idea.

In hindsight, someone wrote a book, “88 Reasons Why The World Will Rapture In 1988?” That year came and gone. Then, another book was published the following year, explaining why the world would definitely end in 1998. Again, that year had passed uneventfully. Later, someone thought the world will end on May 21, 2011. That happened to be another failed prediction again. So are you thinking what I am thinking with regards to the Mayan theory?

For a moment, let’s recall the earthquake and tsunami that happened in Japan, on the 11th of March this year. Didn’t it happened so suddenly and without a warning? All of us were surprised, shocked and saddened when we learn more on the incident. It took thousands of lives, hundreds of millions in economic loss and sadly, we saw how this brought Japan to its knees, so to speak.

A little earlier, there was an earthquake at Christchurch in New Zealand. And more recently, the typhoon that almost crippled Philippine’s economy. Then, Thailand was struck with its worst flood. Millions of Thais were displaced and caused an untold amount of damage to the Country’s reputation as a manufacturing and industrial hub. In between, there were at least two deadly tornadoes and storms in the United States and floods in Australia as well. Perhaps, such is the power of nature.

We have been told years ago about global warming, the melting icebergs and last but by no means least, conserving energy and how recycling will ease the burden of Mother Nature. While many may simply dismiss the Mayan theory as a hoax, don’t you think we are witnessing to the wrath of an angry Mother Nature? 

The crux of the matter is, all of us are living in a connected world today. An earthquake or a major mishap or disaster happening at any part of the world will affect us just as much economically, directly or indirectly.

“And now the time has come
And so, my love, I must go
And though I lose a friend
In the end you’ll know
One day, you’ll find
That I’ve gone
But tomorrow may rain, so
I’ll follow the sun …………..”

Be Patient, Don’t Quit Too Soon.

Success rarely comes overnight ………………..

As all of us can agree starting something new, be it a business, a dream or implementing a new undertaking and taking it all the way to success is not an easy task. At times, we may even find ourselves having to make a choice either hanging on with it or letting our dream die.

David had a big dream in his life.

He had a desire to make a difference in his life.

But, as a young man, David spent many years as a shepherd, caring for his father’s sheep.

I am sure there were plenty of times when David must have thought, “God, what am I doing here? There is no future in this place. When are you going to change this situation?”           

But, David understood God’s timing. He knew that if he would be faithful in obscurity, God would promote him at the right time. And, he knew very well that God will bring his dreams to pass in due season.

In hindsight, we know it is not easy to build something from scratch. And, like David, we may not really see any possibility our ideas or our dreams could happen. Most people don’t always understand God’s method. His ways don’t always make sense to us, but we have to realize that God sees the bigger picture.

Success rarely happen overnight. Be patient. Don’t quit too soon. God will bring it to pass in a split second of time. Have faith that one day all the pieces have to come together for it to be God’s perfect time. God will bring it altogether where it is God’s timing and all the forces can’t stop Him.

Just before I conclude this post, I wish to say “Hello” to everyone in Fitness First Rockville; “Don’t grow impatient too soon. Be patient. And, don’t quit too soon. Success rarely happen overnight. Time is on your side, if you don’t rush it. It takes plenty of courage, passion and last but not least, a positive vision to see our dreams come true. Continue dreaming your dreams. Keep excelling and achieving your dreams.” !!!

On Hiring And Promoting.

“Hire and promote first on the basis of Integrity; Second, Motivation; Third, Capacity; Fourth, Understanding; Fifth, Knowledge; And last but not least, Experience. Without Integrity, Motivation is dangerous; Without Motivation, Capacity is Impotent.Without Capacity, Understanding is limited; Without Understanding, Knowledge is meaningless; Without Knowledge, Experience is blind. Experience is easy to provide and quickly put to good use by people with all the other qualities.”
~ De Ward Hock.
Founder of VISA.

He Cares ……….

Distress is most often stress that hasn’t been addressed. As such the best way for us to deal with stress is to beat it before it begins to beat us. Be mindful, stress can cause increased heart beat and blood pressure which in turn increases the risk of heart attack or stroke. But by changing our lifestyle and changing our thinking, we can control and eliminate excess stress in our lives. Invest some time to develop healthy habits as well as recognizing God’s sovereignty over our lives are some ways we can beat stress effectively.

Choose life – Choosing life is to look at life optimistically because every day is a deluge of choices. Every decision no matter how small, is accompanied by some stress. Make the most of where you are, what you have and who you are with.

Focus on one thing at a time and on doing it well – I reckon one job well done is more satisfying and less stressful than beginning six projects and leaving them all half finished. Multitasking can be a good thing. But if the task at hand is more complex, doing several things at once can possibly cause you to lose time rather than saving time.

Find your niche – Trying to fit yourself into a lifestyle that does not match your talents, values or your goals in life will exert pressure on you both emotionally and spiritually. Slowly replace what you are doing now with the things that will challenge you to grow into the uniquely-gifted person God created you to be. That will make you feel less stress  and every day a bit more like a vacation.

Pause and reflect – Why wait for things to happen? Taking a moment to evaluate what you are doing and why will help you put life back into perspective. If you never take the time and trouble to stop and consider where  you are headed, you may discover you have arrived at a destination you never intend to reach. Be mindful, slow down before you hit something.

Refuse to compare yourself with others – Why stress out trying to imitate someone you were never created to be? Image is not necessarily everything in our lives. But, if you want to make a worthwhile comparison, try comparing yourself to yourself – are you growing in positive ways? Make use of your talents to the best of your ability. And last, but by no means lest;

Have someone you can trust – God has promised to be with you always, hear your prayers, forgive you and love you unconditionally. Those are promises you can depend on. God has kept every promise He ever made. Share the details of your life with Him. Be mindful, He cares …………….

My heart is playing tricks on me
And its building bricks on me
I can’t break through
And I can’t face you

My world is slowly turning now
But it’s burning up somehow
I need some time
To know what’s right

My heart skips a beat
My heart skips a beat

My heart is always first to know
And as the feeling grows
I can’t deny, push those thoughts aside
My world is full of loveliness
But focus on the stress

My heart says, “Go” but my brains says, “No”
And it’s only in the quiet that I hear myself breath ……

Have a wonderful weekend. !!!

80 Hours In Penang …… Day 3.

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