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A Moment Please ……

“Fear less, hope more. Eat less, chew more. Whine less, breath more. Talk less, say more …. And more good things are yours.”
~ Swedish Proverb.

Oh, how time flies. And just like that, we are done with the first half of 2012.

As I post, it is only a matter of hours to watch who will prevail in the UEFA-EURO 2012.

Whether its going to be the red-shirted, all conquering Spain or the battle hardened, blue shirted Italy.

All will be revealed very soon ………. What do you think, can Balotelli and Pirlo pull another rabbit out of the hat?

Have another great month and a happy Sunday !!!


Know What You Want.

“When I grow up, I want to be a child.”
~ Joseph Heller.

I reckon its okay to let our inner child out ……… But definitely not all of the time and not as much as we think.

You see, dreams are nothing without action. The one unequivocal thing that all of us want out of life is, to be happy. That’s it. When we are happy, does it truly matter how much we have? What people will think of us, or what we look like?

The crux of the matter is, when we are happy with who we are and what we have in our life right now, isn’t everything else a bonus?

So dare to dream …….. know what you want and be determined to make it happen !!!

Change The Way You Ask A Question?

“There will be little rubs and disappointments everywhere, and we are all apt to expect too much; but then, if one scheme of happiness fails, human nature turns to another; if the first calculation is wrong, we make a second better; we will find comfort somewhere.” ~ Jane Austen.

As I post, it is late Sunday morning for yours truly. The hazy days are back again. Generally, people here are affected by the current hot and dry weather. Coupled with the massive open burning hotspots, the air quality has been recorded as unhealthy in several areas. Most people are choosing to remain indoors. While those who have to be outdoors and on the road, like it or otherwise, they will have to wear their surgical masks.

Have you ever made some bad choices that caused you unhappiness and wondered why that happened?

On the other hand, some people have a tendency to fight back or to disagree with any suggestion or recommendation, even if it is a positive proposal for them. I mean, even before they have a chance to consider or think about it.

You see, we are born with the ability to be happy. Like anger, excitement, boredom and so forth, happiness is a natural state. Everyone can be happy. Disagreeing is a form of defense. Happiness is not a matter of luck or belief. It is created by the way we think and respond. Thus, all that is required from us is to have regular and conscious effort to increase our happiness level.

The crux of the matter is, however happy or unhappy you are now, you can be happier, or a lot happier. Happiness is not just a pleasurable sensation. It is about how our mind and body guide us towards what is most rewarding for us. Indeed, there are some who are frightened to be happy. They worry once the feel good feeling fades away, they would feel worse. So every time they get happy, they stop. I reckon, they don’t have to do that. Do not let the past keep you down. Remember, we can alwas keep that happiness as we move to the next stage.

It’s Fathers Day today. So to all fathers, “Happy Father’s Day.” it is not easy being a father. I know what it is like. At a recent get together with my youngest daughter, she asked; “What is your target?” I looked at her, straight into her eyes and said; “At my age, I don’t have targets, i still have dreams, plenty of dreams and working hard on it.” I believe a positive outlook helps. It help us view obstacles as opportunities, stay motivated to achieve what we want in life and bounce back from our setbacks. I understand the way my youngest daughter directed her question at me. All I said later was, “Change the way you ask a question and you will be surprised how well it will work for you.” Finally, I gave her some examples and she seem to get it.

Have a great week every one !!!


The Big Picture.

“On the whole human beings want to be good, but not too good and not good all the time.” ~ George Orwell.

It is very easy for us to lose sight of our purpose and overall intention.

As a matter of fact, the past week alone, there were several occasions where I experienced extreme emotions. It was like my pendulum swung from giving up to staying on, resisting to accepting, from confusion to clarity and to follow the flow.

I wonder how often will we take a step back and try to see the big picture? We react when our values, beliefs, principles and definitions are challenged. We seem to think, what is important to me is important to you too. Otherwise, why are we here doing this, when we are not on the same page?

The truth is when people express their resistance, it is when they perceive a clash of interests. The truth is, we instinctively react to protect our values, don’t we? The big picture is, trust is like a bank account. It is something we need to invest often and withdraw wisely. You see, people resist when trust is low. And, we need to respond appropriately, not by defending. But, by slowing down, show openness, be willing to explain and listen and to engage in more face-to-face contacts.

Be mindful; “Choice, not circumstances, determines your success.”


Peace Of Mind.

Sometimes, thinking too much about our future can disrupt our peace of mind,

Anxiety about the future can take over, affecting our decisions and our enjoyment of life.

You see, peace of mind is a precious as well as elusive sense of contentment. I mean, if we look for it, we would not find it. It will only come to us when our mind is still and empty of negative emotions.

So never forget to be nice to yourself at least once a day. Do, say or think of something that will make you happy, joyous, inspired, satisfied or just feeling good ……… Because the soul needs constant nourishment in order to stay happy.

Ever wonder why an optimist is so good at finding peace of mind?

This is because they choose to overlook the negative events and can only remember or recall the positive aspects of past events better. Besides, they take action to resolve any differences with others rather than allowing the bad feeling to linger, escalate or eat away their peace of mind.

A frightened person is always defensive. A discouraged person is always nervous. Hostility is simply aggressive expression of despair and heartache …….. Understand this and it becomes a lot easier for us to be tolerant.

Wishing you the very best in all that you are undertaking, engaging or even dreaming of ……..


Don’t Be Such A Pessimist.

Some of us like to scare ourselves with frightful thoughts. Say, making situations worse than they really are. Turning tiny molehills into huge mountains. And, either always complaining or always grumbling.

Don’t be such a pessimist.

Be mindful, your optimism generates the conviction that whatever happens is for the best. The seed of your thoughts and action is essentially hope and good wishes for every one. Once you fully understand the importance of thought, you make them powerful.

Negative expectations almost create negative outcomes for us. We tend to predict gloomy forecast. They paralyze the flow of positive energies and keep us painting our lives in dreary colors.

Each day we face new situations. Nothing remains the same. So when we learn to adapt, we feel happy and optimistic whatever the situation may be …….. Don’t be such a pessimist.

Stay optimistic and keep discovering your true self ……..