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“People are like Oreo. The good stuff is on the inside,”
Happiness is an emotion. But, it is also a choice. And no one can steal our happiness as it is ours to do with as we please. Thus, one can choose to be happy rather than sad, optimistic rather than pessimistic or hopeful rather than doubtful.
But, on another hand, we have to be mindful, “No one is an island.” As a matter of fact, from the day we are born until the day we die, we are dependent upon the help of others in countless ways. Besides, like everyone else, we also need strength to withstand the everyday pressures exerted from the outside. So never allow every little thing to get to you, drag you down or consume your life. Make today count and live the best you can today. And do what is enjoyable, rewarding or special to your inner soul.
A new mindset and style has been sweeping out the old way we use to live and work. The new generation is motivated by meaning. They are ambitious, confident, achievement-oriented, have high expectations, seeks out challenges, not afraid to question authority and driven by an innate need for excellence in everything they do. Thus, the future seems to belong to those who are competent. Or those who are very good at what they do and those who dare to dream. and work their dream.
For this week, I am sure some of you or your loved ones and friends may be celebrating birthdays. I wish to utilize this space to wishing everyone celebrating their birthdays, a very Happy Birthday. May there be more happy returns of this day. May you experience happiness all through your life. And may your near and dear ones as happy as you will be.
As I conclude my post of the day, I remember a lady, an old lady in fact. And I would like to leave you a poem from this old lady, the late Nadine Stair. when she was asked what she would do if she had her life to live over again;
“If I have my life to live over, I’d dare to make more mistakes. I’d relax. I would limber up. I would be sillier than this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eat more ice-cream and less cherries. I would perhaps have more actual troubles but I’d have fewer imaginary ones.
You see, I’m one of those people who live sensibly and sanely, hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I’ve had my moments, and if I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them , In fact, I’d try to have nothing else, just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day. I’ve been one of the persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat and a parachute. If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.
If I had my life to live over, I’d start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way in the fall. I’d go for more dances. I ‘d ride my merry-go-rounds, I would pick more daisies.”
In moving forward, we need to look ahead and envision what the rest of our lives would be like if we continue with the philosophy or beliefs we have today. Let’s examine what beliefs have serve us well and what beliefs have serve us poorly. We can then either affirm or change them – I believe if we do this well and do it now, we may look back one day and say; “If I had my life to live over, I’d do it the same way.”
Once again a very “Happy Birthday” to everyone celebrating their birthdays this week …… And to YC, a young and dedicated caregiver, if I may add; “May you have the very best in life. !!!
We Are Unique.
“The only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down.”
~ Stephen Richards. Cosmic Ordering: You can be successful.
I came across a middle-aged couple slowing down in front of a popular weight management outlet very recently. When I got closer, I overheard the man telling the lady, “You are unique. ….. We are all put into this world to be who we are. How can you be your best when you are working to be a reflection of somebody else?” as he led the hesitant lady away ……
All of us have positive qualities, don’t we? For instance, happiness and contentment, are beautiful qualities. But to remain truly happy and contented, one ought to remain positive. Say, if we can detach and focus only on the blessings that we have, I reckon we could be a happier person – in the true sense of the word.
“Then, what thinking is negative?” you may ask. Generally, all thinking that makes us feel less contented can be considered negative. For instance, thoughts related to how bad things are or indulging in any negative mental dialogue. You see, the wonderful thing is; “Life is directly related to where we choose to focus our attention.” If we choose to focus on thoughts of problems, it is almost certain our experience of life will consist mainly of problems.
Thus, by moving our focus of attention away from the problems and wrongs of the world and our lives, we gradually begin to find ourselves noticing more beauty and kindness. And this is what children do on a regular basis. No pun intended. I agree, they may be living in the same world as we, adults do. But, it is the way that they notice different aspects of it. Say, they see humor, opportunities, compassion and ……
As I conclude my post for the day and if I may ask, “Have you ever thought what it means to appreciate someone?” I reckon, if we truly appreciate what someone does or what someone stands for, tell him or her. Be mindful, it is easy to get discouraged these days and sometimes it only take one appreciative person to keep someone going …… My parting thought; “Appreciation is a wonderful thing:It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.” ~ Voltaire.
We are unique. ….. Stay happy and keep excelling !!!
Never Give Up !!!
Nothing is ever too hard to do,
If your faith is strong and your purpose is true ……
Never give up and never stop,
Just journey on the mountain top.
Stay in the attitude of faith.
None of us can escape negativity.
I believe there are times when negative situations and words are not all that detrimental. The crux of the matter is how we deal with it that really matters. In moving forward, the key to achieving any of our dreams or goals, is to firstly convince ourselves that it is we who are going to make it happen.
Besides, a head full of negative thoughts will not help us tap into our God given potential in any way …… Stay Optimistic …… Never give up and “Never Give Up on God.”– Stay in the attitude of faith.
Blessings and have a happy weekend. !!!
Are You Ready For More?
As I thought about how to expand on my previous post, “Stay Happy.” I was overwhelmed by a wonderful feeling of contentment …… Life is not so much about winning or losing – it is about living.
Happiness reminds us that each day is precious and each day we can choose to be happy. Say, we can choose to live by our values and we can choose to be grateful for the amazing possibilities we are given. But, making any successful and positive change requires forethought. It is always better to feel that we are moving towards something new and exciting with our eyes fully wide open rather than doing things blindly – without giving due consideration.
“Peace of mind” is an elusive and precious sense of contentment. If we look for it. we won’t find it. It only comes to us when our mind is still and empty of negative emotions. Say, guilt, bitterness and anxiety. These negative emotions can dominate our thoughts and sap our energy. Thus, in moving forward to find peace of mind, we must not be held back by these negative emotions unnecessarily.
Perhaps, you may agree life is full of hard knocks. And for some, life can be a harsh experience of one setback after another. Thankfully, for most of us, life hast treated us more kindly. Except from time to time, we may feel pain, disappointment, despair and so forth.
In sports, all of us have seen pictures of athletics howling in pain, when they stumbled on the track or took a hard fall. Many times it’s not just because of the physical pain of a hamstring and so forth. It is also the inconsolable dream of having a dream dashed on the ground.
Have a dream. Better still, have an inspiring dream or vision. Thinking too much about the future can sometimes affect our happiness and peace of mind. Anxiety about the future can take over, affecting our decisions and our enjoyment to life. And not fret what may or may not lie ahead.
My parting thought; “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” – Charles Darwin.
Big things always have a way of making us feel a tad insignificant. Remember how you felt the last time you met someone who was bigger than life or stunningly talented? And did you felt like less? …… Basically, we are all connected. And when we witness amazing people, it is normal if we tend to feel unamazing by comparisons. But, amazing doesn’t fit everywhere. Stop thinking. Start living. Stay happy. And drop the perception that amazing people somehow diminish those of us who don’t seem to be.
Happy New Year !!!
First and foremost, a “Happy New Year” to each and every one of you ……
Despite the earlier fears of another global recession and economic slowdown, we are glad to ride through those waves of uncertainty without much hindrance.
Perhaps there may be some of us who are still recovering from the merrymaking of Christmas. The New Year is just around the corner and is waiting for us. In a matter of hours, we will bid adieu to a year filled with happy and sad moments, good and bad experiences and memories that have affected us in one way or another.
As 2013 dawns upon us, let us celebrate …… past, present and future successes and the realization of our all our aspirations.
Wishing you a Happy New Year and May God bless us all. !!!
Revisiting: My Take – Can Money Buy Love?
First and foremost, I believe there is no simple answer to this tricky question …… So as to which side is right, that depends on what kind of love one is looking for. Say if you are looking for love from a soul mate, then it is highly unlikely that it can be bought with money.
On the other hand, money does increase one’s chance of love. Money can help generate love. I mean generating the circumstances that are favorable for love as well as inducing the loving feeling in us. Money can improve our bargaining position and our attraction factor – the pull factor.
While love decreases the need for money is especially true when one is so deeply in love initially. At that moment, money can be of less significance. However, one will get to realize with the lack of money for his or her basic needs, their love could also be at risk. Thus, a lot more have to be addressed, put in place and properly synchronized before love can be considered as meaningful.
I believe money can lead us to love because love is something that is hardly disconnected from reality. In this day and age, money can help us find love. But, be mindful what we can expect and cannot expect from it. More money can probably lead to more stress and is less effective in bringing us the kind of love we want.
Love without money is difficult – I dread to think about it. It could be equally stressful as well. Consider the following frequently expressed statements; “Oh, it’s so difficult to love you when you’re earning so much less than me.” Or, “So much less than my good friend’s husband” and so forth.
As I conclude this posting, I wish to quote “Money will buy you a fine dog, but only love can make it wag its tail.” – Richard Friedman. Can money buy love? At least not the kind of love I cherish …… That kind of love is priceless. I believe we should give from our heart and not our pocket. We should give love to the people around us as it is in giving we receive. Yes even in this day and age, where we can mail order a wife or a husband, pick up our phone and rent-a-date …… and so the list of options goes.
Happy loving and happy living …… Have a fabulous weekend everyone !!!
Happy Living ……
Everyone can be happy …… As a matter of fact, all of us are born with the ability to be happy. So however happy or unhappy you are, you can be happier.
However, each of us may have a slightly different path to happiness.
You see, as we go through the path of life, we could have picked up some unhelpful ways of thinking and acting that make us feel bad along the way. Over time, these unhelpful thinking and acting have reinforced and affect our brain chemistry which in turn continues the pattern of our thought. But there is a lot more than to feeling good ……